Learning To Apologize To Your Teen

 

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Let me ask you a question. What would you do if your teen walked up to you and told you that they were sorry for rolling their eyes at you this morning? They said that they recognized that it was disrespectful and asked for your forgiveness. Other than picking yourself up off of the floor from sheer shock, what other reaction would you have? How would it make you feel? Loved, respected, honored?

Let me ask you one more question. What would your teenager do if you walked up to them and apologized for reacting unfairly to them during an argument? You told your teen that you showed disrespect to them as a person and you asked for their forgiveness. How would that make them feel? Valued, respected, cared for?

One thing I do know, without the second scenario happening (a parent apologizing to a teen), the first one is much more unlikely to ever be a reality.

Now I know teenagers can make dumb mistakes and react in very immature ways. They can often be disrespectful and taciturn. But I also know that God desperately loves them (even more than we do) and shows kindness and mercy to them! And He has given us, the parent, the job of teaching our children that they have value.

And how can they realize their own value if they never hear an “I’m sorry” when it’s obvious that we have wronged them?

Let me challenge and encourage you to value your teen enough to admit to them when you are wrong. Because we aren’t always right!

Check out the online parenting class for this month:

https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/123492184/ad057d3124

After Watching The Video:

Good job! Not easy, but I am proud of you! For what? For being the kind of parent that can show their teenager humbleness through knowing the importance of an apology! It’s hard to humble yourself to say I’m sorry to a teen who is just being bratty and all you want to do is hurl the hurtful words right back at them.

If I have learned anything through the years, it is the fact that teenagers often forget or maybe never even realized the fact that their parents are actual individuals who have actual feelings that can actually be hurt! They can throw words like well placed hand grenades, hitting the target with precision which just happens to be our heart.

And yet you have the kind of love that has learned the only way to teach your teen about value and respect and honor, is to mirror it to them. You have recognized that when you are wrong, you apologize. Plain and simple.

Most people know that I Corinthians 13 talks about love and verse 5 says that love does not keep a record of wrongs. Help your teen understand that a sincere apology helps that record stay clear. If we apology for wronging our teen or vice versa, then we can start fresh without any record at all. At least that is what God says love looks like.

And He did pick you specifically to raise this teenager to know His Word. So once again, I would like to say, “Good job!”

Walking with you,

Doug